Talk to me

It was good to be able to sit and talk to you today for a few minutes. But pretty disturbing based on what you said. It looks like old times, accusations and blame for something I didn't do 13-17 years ago -- yet you can't talk about your past - no apologies, no amends for the past two years because we're supposed to look forward, not back.

We definitely have a shot at making our marriage work, but I am still waiting for you to stop swinging from one extreme to the other. Now it's about me being a. a control freak b. not submissive c. preoccupied with too many other things and not having time for you.

I know it is all crap but it is like a knife in the stomach. Really.  After waiting for you for 29 3/4 years to stop using you want to talk about what I do wrong, and are angry with me.

Really.  And you won't have anything to do with 12 steps, Christian or otherwise, counseling, a sponsor or work a program. You're good. You've got it.  Hope so!